Emotional intelligence


Basedon my mental health, job performance, and leadership skills, I cangrade my emotional quotient as being super. Over the past decades, Ihave witnessed a considerable improvement in my EQ. I have been ableto apprehend my own and my associates’ emotions and use theinformation to guide my thinking and behavior. My ability to maintainmy close acquaintances stems from my successful intelligence. I havebenefited from my capability to discriminate between several emotionsand be able to manage mine especially anger. Having a high EI hasbeen of importance to me as a transformative leader. I have been ableto remain as the epitome of passion, knowledge, courage and kindness.A person with charisma who people can emulate and follow. It has alsoenabled me to interact with any group of individuals whether young orold and in both settings remain friendly and focused.

Havingspent my entire life with my sister, I can document a comparison ofour EQ’s. Both of us are empathetic. Another similarity between usis the ability to manage our distressing situations. To be successfulmeans to be able to control stress. Both of us have self-awareness.This is the capacity to recognize one’s strength and weakness,appreciate your weaknesses and try to work on them. Nonetheless, ourEI differs in several ways. My sister is a perfectionist. With her,everything should be 100 percent perfect. However, with me, I knowperfection is hypothetical. I don’t condemn mistakes. I learn fromthem. She is also not a change agent which makes her a less leader.She hates criticism and therefore afraid of initiating changes. Withme, I understand that the world is dynamic, and change is part oflife. Critics do not deter me from achieving my desired goals. Thedifferences do not interfere with our relationship. Having theability to understand and appreciate each other makes us even bettersisters.

Thereexist several ways to remain in check with our emotions. One of themis the failure to react (Goleman, 2013). Emotions crowd our judgment,and we may end up hurting other by making wrong decisions. Whenflooded with feelings especially anger it’s always good to laughthings off and wait for our emotions to subdue and make a wisejudgment. Another way is letting it go. When our friends hurt us, thebest thing to do is releasing it by making it part of our past.Holding grudges just make things worse. Forgiving ourselves couldalso be a way of remaining in check with our emotions. Failure toforgive ourselves makes us remain guilty and unhappy. People havedevised several strategies to enable them to manage emotions. Therapyis among one of them. Talking to therapists have allowed people to beable to understand and contain their emotions. Another strategy istaking a deep breath (Goleman, 2013). It helps one relax and maintaintheir stability when crowded with emotions. Undertaking physicalactivities also help relieve feelings. Many people go for jogging asa way to distract their mind from the source of emotions.

Failureto contain our emotions may have profound effects. It could result inmental illness (Siegel, 2012). Emotions may cause stress which whennot managed may develop to depression. Depression has been noted asone of the risk factors for developing mental illness. Every time wefail to control our emotions we draw away our friends and relatives.In the end, we may find ourselves alone and isolated with no one totalk and relate to us. Most family break-ups have been associatedwith the inability to contain emotions (Siegel, 2012). Where one ofthe spouses cannot control their feelings of anger, the familyremains ever violent. This has also lead to an increase in the numberof street children.

Thebest way to ensure that our emotion state is appropriate before weinteract with people is contemplating before we speak (Lewis &ampBarrett, 2011). This makes sure that the words we utter are notoffensive. We also need to evaluate the kind of people who associatewith us. It is possible to joke with some, while with others, onemust watch their mouth.


Goleman,D. (2013). Emotionalintelligence.New York: Bantam Books.

Siegel,J. (2012). Stopoverreacting: Effective strategies for calming your emotions.Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Lewis,M., &amp Barrett, L. (2011). Handbookof emotions.New York: Guilford Press.